The woman, who was previously married to a pastor, openly announced the end of their union and explained the circumstances behind it. In a detailed video, she revealed that she got married at the age of 20, describing how marriage initially felt like a safe place for her. However, only a few months after the wedding, the now 28-year-old began noticing troubling changes in her husband that signaled deeper issues in their relationship.
The former pastor’s wife, identified as @adiamond.charise, took to social media to speak about the collapse of her marriage. She titled her explanation “Why I am no longer a pastor’s wife,” and shared it on TikTok in two parts.
What she observed in her husband
In the first part of her video, she explained her reasons for marrying young and gave some background on her decision at the time. But as the marriage progressed, she started to see shifts in her husband’s behavior that made her realise things were no longer right between them.
She mentioned that her ex-husband constantly appeared exhausted, dealt with severe fatigue, suffered chronic migraines, and experienced persistent inflammation in his body. Her detailed narration in part one highlighted how these changes made her understand that their marriage was deteriorating.
“Okay, here is part one of why I am no longer a pastor’s wife. I got married at 20 years old. I know I only look 20, but I’m 28, and I got married at 20. At that time—what I now know, obviously, being very young—is that my life was really broken. I was really broken from seeing my parents go through divorce. “It was a six-and-a-half-year process. I think my mom told me when I was in the sixth grade that she and my dad were going to be divorcing, and they did not finally divorce until I was in the 10th or 11th grade. So for all those years, I was like, “My parents are going to be together… they’re not. My parents are together… they’re not.”
“Within that span of time, I also witnessed three very close family members pass away—my grandmother, my great-grandmother, and my uncle—all within the span of about two and a half years. I also remember leaving my childhood home and not getting to say goodbye to it. It was a culmination of things.
“My mindset getting married so early was: I want a family. I want to create what I no longer have. And I would say that I had the most amazing mom in the sense that she is such a nurturing soul. She was a stay-at-home mom, and I wanted to be like her. “I remember after graduating high school—this is only two or three years before meeting my former spouse—I wanted to go to performing arts school. But a lot of things prohibited that from happening. There was a lot of fear, and one of the biggest factors was the relationship I had with my mom at the time. I allowed her influence in my life to deter me from going to the school I really wanted to go to.
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My question is, how did pastor got married to you at first place?
What is your opinion?