A trending video making the rounds on social media has stirred mixed reactions after a young Nigerian lady openly criticized men over what she believes is a lack of effort during the “talking stage” of relationships. The clip, which has since gone viral, captures the lady expressing frustration with suitors who ask if she has eaten but fail to take further action after hearing “no.”
The Viral Statement That Got People Talking
In the video, the lady recounts a recent phone conversation with a potential partner. According to her, the man asked the common question, “Have you eaten?” but did nothing after she responded that she hadn’t. This, she argued, reflects a deeper issue with how some men approach courtship.
In her words: “As my talking-stage partner, you ask me if I’ve eaten and I say no; don’t you know you’re supposed to ask for my account details so I can buy food?”
Her statement quickly gained traction online, sparking debates across different platforms. While some viewers agreed with her perspective, others felt her expectations were unrealistic, especially at such an early stage of a relationship.
Mixed Reactions From Social Media Users
As expected, Nigerians did not hold back in sharing their opinions. Supporters of the lady argued that small gestures like sending money for food show care, intentionality, and seriousness. They believe that if someone genuinely likes you, they should be willing to go the extra mile—even during the talking stage.
On the other hand, critics strongly disagreed, pointing out that the “talking stage” is meant for getting to know each other, not financial commitments. Many argued that expecting money before a relationship is even established could encourage unhealthy dynamics and entitlement.
Watch the video below: